Monday, January 9, 2017

(15) Re-examine Your Motives and Improve Your Argument




I wish this were true for me. The man who said it was a black leader in South Africa speaking to a Nation that nearly destroyed itself through justified reactive retaliation over the abuses of the past and some that are still present today, as change take time.

The saving message?

A commitment to forgiveness and productive cooperation in achieving mutual goals with their opponents, including many who had been their abusers.

Unlike the theme in this photo. I was taught to act the bully and to respond to bullying through fiercely destructive anger. The mother who raised me eventually grew tired of his abuse and left this father.

As an adult, my own actions troubled my family and change was a difficult process leaving scars on many. It was a very sad and destructive thing for all of us to recover from.

Today I am saddened by the fierce anger I see around me in our political landscape.... This is not a cause for pride.

Will the outcome of each election become focused on fierce anger and punitive judgements imposed by those that do not understand or appreciate the true potential of Democracy?

Or will we find a way to seek productive cooperation to achieve mutual goals.

It is totally up to us. We are the only adults in the room.

DEMOCRACY.... IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT!

Disclaimer... If you are in an abusive environment or are in danger due to abuse, I am not suggesting that you merely ignore and forgive and things will get better.

YOUR SAFETY IS OF UTMOST IMPORTANCE!
DO NOT COMPROMISE YOUR SAFETY!
DO GET THE SUPPORT AND HELP THAT YOU DESERVE!


(Click link to go to information web page)

Is a program that my wife has been involved with for years. Initially for her own journey, and since to assist others in theirs.


(16) Comparing Modern Reformations

An American Reformation?
Contrasting America's Civil Rights struggle with the hopes for equality in Pakistan 


Could America's Civil Rights Movement be seen as a kind of American Reformation? 

Considering our Election of our first black President. How could we call it anything less?

 And how does this accomplishment compare with what is happening across the globe among other oppressed groups? 


What principles do you attribute to our success?



Below are a series of videos contrasting America's Civil Rights struggle with the current struggle in Pakistan including the freeing of Asia Bibi after eight years in solitary confinement. An event that literally turned that nation upside-down. 

In American History, the unelected Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. is as famous as Washington, Lincoln, and Jefferson.

King was a Baptist Minister, the son of a Baptist Minister, a man of emotional conflict. At a young age King struggled with depression and at age twelve considered suicide with the passing of his grandmother. At age sixteen, he struggled with his faith, questioning the claims of the Gospel and yet today Americans proudly celebrate his religious accomplishments.

Wrongly named Michael on his birth certificate, Martin lived up to his true given name, and like Martin Luther of old he was instrumental in bringing about a Reformation in America. Directed by the Gospel, his words and actions questioned America's status quo giving the majority of Americans the freedom to reflect on their lives and permission to act out of their consciences.

Pakistan today is locked in a Reformation conflict as well, but their historical foundations do not include the affirmations of the Gospel. Across the Islamic regions of the World, there are attempts at Reformation causing religious sects to fluctuate in influence power and allegiance and minorities suffer persecution.

The story below is that of an illiterate field laborer whose simple desire to be, Who she is In Christ" has turned her nation upside down through the murder of a governors, magistrates, and disruptive protests that shut the entire nation down for several days.

VIDEO 1 Asia Bibi is Accused of blasphemy 
in January 2009

VIDEO 2 Comparison in conditions to 
1961 U.S. Freedom Riders

VIDEO 3 Pakistani segregation like a 
WARSAW GHETTO filmed in April 2009

VIDEO 4 Conditions and expressions of resolve
 of Freedom Riders


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjN3EPgxaW4
VIDEO 5 Expression of resolve and the 
murder of Dr King April 4, 1961

VIDEO 6 Expression of resolve and murder 
of Governor Taseer January, 2011

VIDEO 7 Glorification of (convicted and executed) 
murderer of Governor Taseer

VIDEO 8 Commitment and murder of Minorities 
Minister Bhatti March, 2011

VIDEO 9 Protests and threats against Bibi's family with
release from prison after 8 years on death row Nov, 2018


VIDEO 10 Nation wide upheaval with Asia Bibi's 
acquittal November 1, 2018

VIDEO 11 Very informative and challenging lecture 
on historical reformations

VIDEO 12 Analysis of Nation wide upheaval 
November 1, 2018

VIDEO 13 Move to Canada and Hopefulness

Although we are a melting pot, America's central themes have historically hinged on Judeo-Christian faith claims. In these we are challenged to, "Identify Self," as "a Uniquely Created Person," formed in the image of our, "Creator." Each one of us flawed by sin, (our failures) and yet Redeemed through the tremendously expensive and intimately involved actions of a Loving God.

Subsequently we are responsible to Encourage and Seek the Welfare of our fellow man and Reflect the Benevolent Qualities of our Creator.

But I question? Will this generation meet the challenges we face? Will our process of education in amorality suffice? How will we address the flaws, once called sin? Will our families survive the challenge of unrestrained autonomy?

This is not the theme of today's culture. Today we have resigned ourselves to the precepts of Secular Humanism. Today we identify, "self," as the "Product of Progressive Evolutionary Events," autonomous, and ever adapting, blindly advancing guided by blind progressive hopes, thoughts and imaginations. 

We are the gods unto ourselves, and whatever "We Will to Become True," we will do on earth.
But more importantly... There still is time to repent? 

Questions? Start with the book of John in the New Testament.


(17) Whose Choice and what kind of change?

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc7nB8Z7S2L-T_cK6NdJWYNFkxbiYnFzc

click link above for videos

Senate Bill 5722 - CONVERSION THERAPY
WHO'S CHOICE?  AND WHAT KIND OF CHANGE?

All Parents have concern about their children; 

Some out of concern have sought: 
Gay Conversion, or Reparative Therapy. 
Others have sought: 
Gender Transition Therapy for similar reasons. 

Could either of these, life changing actions cause harm? 
The studies say yes!

Senate Bill 5722 restricts professionals from providing Gay Conversion, or Reparative Therapy to minors. Sadly it does not address harm done to children receiving cross-sex hormones in Gender Transition therapy. Is this bias due to a failure of the Gay Lobby to police their own, much like the failure to address sexual abuse that plagued the Catholic Church? Although the Bill does not address this harm, Clip 11  in the playlist does.  

(The remaining clips are as follows.)
Clip 1 A musician's story of fear, rejection and faith.

Clip 2 Presents accusations from a client of Conversion Therapy and a practitioner's defense. 

Clip 3 & Clip 4: Alan Chambers and the rationale for shutting down the largest Conversion Therapy Provider (Exodus International). 

Clip 5 Regeneration and how it affects identity, sexuality and lifestyle explained by an ex gay activist.

Clip 6 Surrender and Re-examining false perceptions of the past.

Clip 7 Christian Church Position/Views of Gay Identity and Practice.

Clip 8 An overview of LGBTQ history in America and stories of many who are offended by any consideration of Reparation or Conversion Therapy.  

Clip 9  Surprising stereotypes broken. 

Clip 10  Effects of regeneration explained by female ex gay activist.

Clip 11 Transgender therapies and children.

So what about It? Does Conversion Therapy work? 

Without regeneration, probably not, but many say it provides strategies for self regulation which is usually an important goal in therapy. So?

Shouldn't people just embrace their tendencies as,"their Identity," as stated by the protagonist in the second clip?

If so, how should we address those who struggle with behaviors that still lay outside of our widening array of social norms. Those who struggle with pedophilia, or child pornography, or necromancy, or bestiality... e.t.c.? Should these like so many other behaviors become a cause for, "Pride" or be presented as a person's "Identity?"

But isn't resisting just DENIAL, a pretense of something that isn't true? 

If a person is minimizing or ignoring the proclivity they experience, then a degree of self deceptive denial is present. 

But when fully and completely acknowledged and presented with both spiritual and behavioral choices it becomes a denial of one of two choices. 

(choice 1) to commit to absolute allegiance to self and personal autonomy in practice and identity. or,

(choice 2) to surrender at least some portion of our individual identity, autonomy, and personal freedom to a higher power on an ongoing basis. 

But why would someone seek or choose to surrender portions of their autonomy?

Matthew 16:24-25 (AMPC) states.. Then Jesus said to His disciples, If anyone desires to be My disciple, let him DENY himself [disregard, lose sight of, and forget himself and his own interests] and take up his cross and follow Me cleave steadfastly to Me, conform wholly to My example in living and, if need be, in dying, also. For whoever is bent on saving his [temporal] life [his comfort and security here] shall lose it [eternal life]; and whoever loses his life [his comfort and security here] for My sake shall find it [life everlasting]. 

It is a denial of self based on faith and internal conviction, not external manipulation or coercion or social oppression. (Hence the Exodus shutdown.)  See clip 2 on the Playlist. 

This form of denial is common in the Christian Faith in the heterosexual community as well as it is a refusal to participate in (concupiscence) described in the King James Bible at Romans 7:8; Collossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:5. 

Denial of the self traditionally results in an abstinence from both heterosexual and  homosexual promiscuity as well as preoccupations with autosexuallity (pornography and masturbation etc. so often preceding criminal activity.

See a PDF of the overview of this bill provided to our legislators at http://lawfilesext.leg.wa.gov/biennium/2017-18/Pdf/Bill%20Reports/House/5722%20HBR%20APH%2018.pdf

As a support group leader dealing with varieties of addictive behaviors, my job has been to listen carefully and to, "hear each person tell their story" as we travel this road of life together. It is to humbly present a pathway of reasonable hope as a co-traveler on a Road to Recovery of personal identity and meaningful purpose as well as autonomy from compulsive and addictive behaviors and beliefs.

I hope that you find these clips and this article both help and informative. I did. And do remember to vote and stay informed as our culture is being remodeled to fit the humanistic model.

(18) Who am I (Considering Gender Identity)

Who Am I 


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QVHq8wb19jo&list=PLc7nB8Z7S2L_7hiLoZQRevVTFJcCG_8HG


 clink link above for full video playlist

The most important messages we send... are the massages that penetrate the hearts of our children to direct their destiny!Whether these messages come from family, friends, media or institutions, even very small messages can change life trajectories.(a sentiment presented by the speaker in video 11)What messages are you going to send?
Below are a series of stories and articles on a very sensitive subject.

The first three end with surgeries some for reasons that most would not expect. These stories are presented in the following videos. They have been selected to both challenge and inform.

Video. 1  BELOW   Presents an array of unique physical conditions. Most but not all were noticeably present at birth. It describes many of the triumphs as well as many hardships they experienced. This video is very informative. If you are limited on time, be sure to view this one in it's entirety. It is a collection of personal accounts from these young people, and describes how their families and physicians have attempted to support and guided them.



Video 2,  BELOW   By National Geographic, Presents a young teen's desire to becoming the most (treasured and comfortable gender) as understood by the presenter and their family along with their experience in their Mormon community.




Video 3 BELOW By 60 Minutes Australia Describes Patrick Mitchell who displayed 100% desire for to transitioning with his mother's help to a become female, until puberty where he chose not to transition.



Video 4 BELOW A female gay feminist activist presents how the Equality Act is failing her family and her Lesbian Culture.


Video 5 BELOW Presents stories of distress, social discomfort and perceived trauma and minimizing. Told by several young adults that have entered the transgender lifestyle.



Video 6 BELOW Is an in depth panel discussion on a psychological condition called Gender Dysphoria that frequently occurs in children and and teens and is often mistreated.


Video 7 BELOW Is an Associated Press Report on the new trend of government sponsored gender confounding messages creates to target toddles and youth attending events at public schools and libraries.


Video 8 BELOW A spouse's description of the abandonment she experienced as her spouse idealized and embraced dreams of alternate lifestyles and transitioning.


Video 9 BELOW Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner, describes reaching his masculine goals and sense of successes in building the character of Bruce and then seeking and experiencing deeper connections and emotional intensity in the LGBTQ community in the person of Caitlyn through deep absorption into the causes and goals of the LGBTQ community.



Video 10 BELOW Drag queen adult anxiety with fulfilling their responsibilities with children.



Video 11 BELOW Walter Heyer describes early gender dysphoria as a response to inadvertent family messages.




Video 12 BELOW Walter Heyer describes his life-struggles with fluctuating levels of gender dysphoria before and after transitioning.



Video 13 BELOW Zinnia Jones' gives analysis of general acceptance/rejection of the present system and outcomes even among ex-transpersons who report degrees of regret. (Video 3 by Patrick Mitchell and Videos 11 & 12 by Walt Heyer, and Video16 by Dee Diamond) are examples that reflect her claims, But not for the reasons that she presents. Her analysis IGNORES the question of deciding for THE YOUNG, THE IMPRESSIONABLE AND THE MISDIAGNOSED.
Video 14 BELOW Describes the most common reason for transitioning among adult males according to research.


15th VIDEO present the full context of #4 along with other social/academic concerns.


16th VIDEO, Diamond Dee describes his struggle with gender identity, childhood molestation, prnography, sexual addiction including autogynephilia. It is no longer available on youtube, but can be found at


If you prefer reading.... the link below.... is to LA Times story titled,
"Mike Penner, Christine Daniels: A Tragic Love Story"...

It follows a persons struggle, torn between the treasured relationships of the past and the growing pull of idealized future hopes and future life as the opposite sex. A good read for revealing the seriousness of this struggle and for building empathy for those struggling. See it at:


I hope you find these snippits both interesting and challenging regardless of how you view or experience this issue.
If you have additional comments... please keep them respectful of the persons involved.